Some blog posts just beg to be written, and this one has been rolling around in my head all day. I was talking to a client on Skype recently and he was asking about how I balance my work and having a family and stuff. (He has recently taken the plunge and quit working for someone else to work full time for himself.) It made me start thinking about the idea of balance, since it is something that we are told we should be striving for in our lives.
Here’s the thing: I don’t think that it’s possible to have everything perfectly balanced all the time.
And that’s OK.
If you picture a scale that is perfectly balanced, it looks beautiful and all, but it’s static. Nothing moves. I think that there will always be something that comes along to throw a monkey wrench into the best-laid plans we have, whether they are for a particular day, month, year, or whatever.
Some projects you think will be a breeze take longer than you had planned, which throws your plan for your next project out of whack. You can go from wondering how you are going to fill your day to being blessed with lots to do, as I like to call it. You might have to deal with a sick child or keep working when you are so sick you look like something out of Night of the Living Dead. You can’t schedule that stuff, and it throws the idea of having balance right out the window.
If you wanted to work within a defined schedule where you start at one time and finish at another set time, you may have chosen a different line of work. I did that stuff for a long time, and it really didn’t work for me. Now, every day is different and it’s more like riding a wave instead of being perfectly balanced, but that’s OK. I do make time for the people and the things that are important to me, and that is more important that trying make everything “balance” out.