When I was in highschool and on the job, there were a few people I did my best to avoid. It was the girls and women who said what was on their minds, no matter how much it hurt. Not only did I find their manner abrasive, I felt they fed into that catty woman stereotype and gave women a bad name in general. They didn’t agree.They excused their rudeness by saying they were honest. I have a nephew who does the same thing. He’s rude, but feels people need to get over it because it’s the truth and that’s always a good thing. I’m not feeling it. I never though honesty was an excuse to be rude and I’m not a fan of the tough love approach to blogging. I feel there are ways to tell the truth or to get a point across without being mean or hurting people.
Bloggers need to be honest with their readers, for sure but I also feel we need to think about our delivery. Indeed, I’ve had a few ranty moments here myself but I find that angry posts only lead to angry responses. Negativity breeds negativity. Who needs all that?
Bloggers can still be honest without being rude or abrasive.
- Present the facts: Even the most popular bloggers can’t reach everyone. Like highschool cliques, we all have a community of people who think the way we do but we also have people who disagree. There’s even folks who (gasp!) don’t like us at all. Getting all preachy and angry won’t convince anyone outside our cliques to drink our Kool Aid. Presenting facts and discussing issues in a respectful manner works better than raising our voices.
- Intelligent people know how to use words rather than insults: To say the people who don’t think the way we do are idiots or don’t know any better shows a lack of intelligence. Certainly there are better ways to convince others to see things our way? If I was to read a blog post and the blogger said anyone who felt a certain way is a moron, I wouldn’t want to come back. However, if a blogger presented his case in a respectful manner, I’d be more inclined to tune him in. Maybe instead of turning me off, he’d at least give me something to think about.
- Positivity breeds positivity: As bloggers we’re in a position to reach people. The blogs that do the best are the ones that empower people or make them feel good about themselves and the world around them. If our tones are negative, brash, condescending, lecturing and “blunt” all the time all we’re doing is promoting more negativity.
- There are no experts: There are no experts. There are no gurus. Only bloggers who share ideas. We know what worked for us and we’re sharing it with others. It doesn’t mean our way is best. To get all tough love and my way or the highway on our communities only displays our ignorance. Intelligent bloggers may know when to share an idea, but they also know other people are allowed to have ideas too. What a sad place this world would be if everyone had to follow one person’s rules. Oh wait, this does happen and it’s called communism.
Talk to me. How do you feel about “tough love” bloggers and blunt honesty? Which bloggers illicit the best response -positive posting or an in your face approach?